Transparency in Worth and Value

TRANSPARENCY

I have been very open about meditating on my path of Self-love. I have been a hostage to my emotions for way too long. I no longer want to use my past or present as a crutch to dictate my future. I am scared of the many choices I have made and I continue to make. I no longer want to be scared of intuition and change. I want to write my own story.


"Why are you doing what you are doing?"


I have also had this question inside of me, "Why are you doing what you are doing?" This applies to a great many things I have going on in my life, however, I will start with facilitating the circles with Jennifer and our venture of our business, Creating Mindfulness.  It is easy to get caught up in the opinions of others. Of yourself. When Jennifer and I open a circle we have been trying to capture in a few minutes the answer to WHY are we here? Who are WE and why are you trusting yourselves to come into OUR circle and spend your precious time with us? I honestly think I have been trying to convince myself of this worth for the last four months. This is where constant SHAME files in and the evil SELF-DOUBT pushes itself inside.

Don't get me wrong, affirmations from others is a drug for me. This is something all together I am working on. I appreciate the compliments of others and for others to give feedback on what would make what we are doing better. However, I want to fully understand the worth of what we are doing for myself. At our Creative Self-Care class this past Friday (2/23/18) I started to feel a tingle of self-affirmation. Possibly because we started off with an amazing affirmation guided meditation by Gayle Hanson Browne. She says tell yourself "I am an amazing child of the universe". I teared up. It was not joy but the doubt of the sentence to my heart that made me realize how far I am and how far I need to go to feel this is true. It was also the sincerity of my heart to tell myself that this is in fact the path I crave.


WORTH

This is a conversation that people have been having for hundreds of years. What is worth? The definition states: 
noun
  1. 1.
    the value equivalent to that of someone or something under consideration; the level at which someone or something deserves to be valued or rated.

Oh no VALUED... What is Value?


The definition states:
noun
noun: value; plural noun: values
  1. 1.
    the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.

    "your support is of great value"


  2. ALSO
  3. verb
    1. 1.
      estimate the monetary worth of (something). Value$


So Jennifer and I have had this discussion about worth and value in regards to our own art practice, art classes and to Creating Mindfulness. Artists have been holding the discussion of worth of their art since the dawn of time. How can you measure worth? How can you be sure that you are not underselling yourself and yet making something obtainable for the masses? What is the Value$ of your worth?

HOW DO YOU CONVINCE OTHERS OF THE VALUE$ OF YOUR WORTH?

Wow. Whew. Ugh. Ummmm. Ouch. Oh. Whoa.  These are some of the words I have heard or have said myself in the regards of the cost of items such as a dinner, a movie, a hotel, a drink, an airline ticket, a concert ticket, groceries, shoes, pants, a car, a house, the list is endless. I have also heard this more recently with art work, art classes, meditation or yoga classes and retreats.


Again, I am just as guilty. 

It is easy to feel hurt about such verbal astonishments to something we think should be valued. I am beginning to teach myself that I must first see the worth in it myself and I cannot control what others feel or think. I cannot tell someone what they should value. I only hope that they can see that this comes from a genuine place and they internalize their own worth.


$VALUE vs VALUE

As an art teacher I talk about value as a shade of a color. A value scale like white, gray, and black. Most students talk about $value as in money. Another person may say that value refers to the importance someone adds to something. Talking about the money $value compared to worth value is a very touchy subject. It is not easy for many to talk about the $value of worth. For many that is a gray area...



How much would you pay for something you think is worth it?

Let us take out your value calculator and ask few questions as you add this up for yourself? 

How much money do you have to spend and enter that into your calculator. Then subtract all the things you do that you feel are worthy? What are those things and how do you prioritize them? How do you quantify that experience or need? Is the experience you are getting instant gratification? Is this something that is long lasting? How does that experience compare to another experience? 

Everyone's value calculator is very personal. Our needs are different. 

For me personally I see myself trying to sell a service and fighting to place a Value$ on the experience. I struggle with placing a strong Worth measured against the Value$ on the service we provide.  Unfortunately, life is not free. We must pay for needs and experience. As I start to value myself as a person and value the planning time, effort and materials, and love that goes into the experiences we are trying to create; I hope to see the Value$ more effortlessly. I also hope to let go of an expectation of others values because they have a different value/value$ calculator. 

What is the worth you are adding to your Value/$Value calculator? 


~Dorothy Verbick


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